In my article, Ethical Wills: Preserving Your Legacy of Values, I outlined reasons why people create an ethical will and when people choose to write them. This article will focus on common approaches you can use to get started writing your ethical will.From my experiences conducting workshops on ethical wills, three basic approaches for writing an ethical will have emerged:
Approach #1 Using an outline structure and a list of items to choose from.
This is by far the easiest way to get started and it can build your confidence quickly. You can create a rough draft to work from in less than an hour. If your urgency level is high, you will find this approach ideal. Once you've created a rough draft, you can revise and customize it so that it will be as unique as you are. There are a couple of print and software resources available that utilize this approach. Web links to learn more about these resources are listed at the end of this article.
Approach #2 Using guided writing exercises to help you create content for your ethical will
This approach is ideal if you want to start creating material that you can integrate and shape into your ethical will. You can get some momentum going right away using this approach. Here are a couple of workshop exercises I employ to get participants creating material they can use for their ethical will.
"Linking the Generations" Exercise
The Room Exercise
This is an exercise I recently heard about from colleagues who attended last year's International Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy conference. I recently shared this exercise with my e-mail newsletter subscribers and received positive feedback on its value.
In this exercise, draw a sketch of a house or apartment you grew up in. Label all the rooms. Then, "walk through" each room and write down what you remember -- stories, events, etc. I've heard from others that this exercise often triggers our memory about additional items to write about. These memories and stories are ways to collect content that reveal our values, life lessons, etc.
Approach # 3 Starting with a blank sheet of paper
This is the most open-ended approach. Those of you who keep journals or diaries will resonate with this approach. Write about your thoughts, experiences, and feelings. Over time, review what you've written. Themes will emerge from which you can create a comfortable structure for your ethical will. In addition to your writing you can save items that articulate your feelings, e.g., quotes, cartoons, etc.
Writing an ethical will need not be difficult to do. In preserving your spiritual legacy, it will provide you with peace of mind, and may well be one of the most cherished gifts you can give to your family and community.
I hope this information will provide the spark you need to consider taking on the challenge of writing your ethical will. For those interested in pursuing this idea and learning about resources for the different approached, please visit www.ethicalwill.com the only web site devoted exclusively to information on ethical wills. My newly released book, Ethical Wills: Putting Your Values on Paper, Perseus Publishing, 2002, is available at on-line booksellers and bookstores everywhere.
Barry K. Baines, M.D.
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